If you’ve been reading my last couple of posts you’ll know that it’s been a challenging few weeks.
First I shared about the stress that comes from being a woman in this pandemic. A timely post considering the current lock down in Ontario.
Then I shared about how I handle stress eating so differently then I used to.
Since I have such an incredibly supportive tribe, I got so many messages asking how I was doing. I also got a few questions about what my ‘getting back on track’ looks like. How do I take care of myself without falling victim to the stress and pressure of the latest ‘healthy lifestyle plan’?
I’ve learned how to address my misalignment with compassion. I’ve learned how to listen and respond to my body signals without being restrictive and abusive. It’s an ongoing and fluid lesson.
The first place that I start is with Methodical Meals. This is about making a commitment to eat at regular intervals. I know that I’m more vulnerable to my own negative self-talk and to hyperpalatable foods that don’t sit well in my body when I’m hungry.
Methodical meals isn’t about creating a ‘diet plan’ that restricts my comfort foods or pleasure foods. In fact, it’s really important that those foods are kept available – I’m stressed and I need comfort. Food is a perfectly acceptable place to seek comfort.
This step is about making sure that I have food that I find satisfying available to me and that I take the time to nourish my body throughout the day.
Connection vs isolation
I have a tendency to isolate when things go sideways. Social connections seem less important than my ‘real’ responsibilities. This is a voice that I have to resist listening to. I schedule time with my health care team and my friends.
Sometimes it’s on Zoom so that we can have tea or lunch together. Other times it’s a phone call where I can walk outside while chatting with a good friend. Either way, it gets put in the schedule.
More of the 3 D’s
Finally, I look at what more I can delegate, delay or delete from my to-do list.
This means that I have to be connected to my values in order to prioritize. Everything on my list is important. There isn’t anything that I WANT to put down. So I review my values and then I review my schedule/to-do’s.
This is why my Living Life As A Rebel program starts out with exercises on finding your values. Without that ground work it’s too easy to get caught up in FOMO or should’s. THEN we move on to goal setting. When your schedule reflects your values, it’s a whole lot easier to stick to your goals and implement the 3 D’s.
If you’ve been enjoying my blogs and would like to learn more about how these perspectives and processes came to be, then I’d like to invite you to check out the 2021 group. If you know that you need to make some changes but don’t want to get caught up in the same old patterns, then you may be a good fit.
Until next time,